Darling, there is nothing wrong with gaining a little weight. Sometimes parents aren’t very good with offering advice, and while they try to be as gentle as possible, a lot of the time what they say comes out in a kind of hurtful way.
Your mum is probably just trying to look out for you, but just didn’t know how say it.
Often, when our families say things like this, it hurts most because they shouldn’t say things like that to their loved ones.
Are you happy at your current weight? If you are, tell your mum that. Is your weight impacting your health? If it isn’t, then there isn’t really much to worry about. But if YOU want to lose weight for whatever reason, that’s your decision entirely - but don’t let comments from friends and family be your motivators, do it for you, only you. And if you don’t want to lose weight, that’s your decision too and you shouldn’t be bullied into losing it for the benefit of someone else.
Once again, there is nothing wrong with gaining some weight, as I’ve said to previous asks, you are so much more than how much you weigh. Please remember that.
Your mum probably didn’t mean to upset you, parents can struggle with words sometimes. Perhaps you should have a chat with her and tell her how what she said made you feel.
All the best,
It’s good that you confronted your friend because anyone who makes jokes about your weight aren’t very nice at all. Most friends wouldn’t do that.
The reason you can’t stop thinking about your weight now is because your friend kept saying nasty things about it. I’d suggest you talk to her about it and tell her just how she’s made you feel, no one wants to feel inferior for their weight!
Now, apart from talking to your friend, you need to remember that you are more than how much you weigh. You are a human being and you deserve love and respect, not to be treated like a punch line for a joke. You are strong and wonderful and spectacular and anyone who can’t treat you like the amazing person you are don’t really deserve your friendship.
Just remember that weight is just a number and you, a human as a whole, cannot be summed up in a single number. You are complex and beautiful. Please remember that and don’t let anyone put you down for how you look.
I hope this has helped!
I’m not sure why you could be feeling this way, my only suggestion would be conditioning from society and peers, how we’re supposed to present in a perfect manner, how we’re supposed to look etc
It does take a bit to get out of that trained state of mind but it is so worth it.
How you stop thinking like this is to remember that there is no one like you in the whole wide world, you are an incredibly unique individual, and you are an absolutely beautiful creation.
Look at yourself as more than your outward appearance. You are so much more than what’s outside. You have a strong, healthy body and a brain that works, you really are awesome inside and out.
Most importantly, try to stop thinking about what other people think of you. The only opinion that matters, when it comes to you, is your own. How you see yourself and how you feel about yourself are far more important to what other people think of you.
So start looking at yourself with love and kindness, appreciate all aspects of yourself and enjoy what your amazing body and mind can do for you :) you’re worth that and you deserve it!
Sorry for the late reply my sweet!
My best advice is this:
Boys are great and all, but if they judge you on what you do and do not eat, they aren’t worth your time. If you want a big bowl of creamy pasta (yum!) or a salad and water, that’s your decision and if anyone shames you for that decision, that’s their problem. You have a healthy appetite, your body needs the food you put into it, we all need good to survive!
Any guy who thinks a woman should eat a certain amount should just take a walk because our bodies are our own!
Sweetling, you eat whatever you want. Don’t deny yourself food because someone else looks down on you for it!
You are so much more than what you decide to eat and if anyone fails to see that, then they are the problem, not your appetite :)
I hope this helps!
Take care and enjoy your food!